The betrothal period is provided for the emotions to catch up to the irrevocable decision made prayerfully and rationally. But she knew I came from a similar background, and we hadn’t specifically discussed this.
For all she knew, I (and my parents) would consider us betrothed.
She wasn’t quite sure she was ready for that kind of commitment, and I don’t blame her.
Group activities were common, and I feel I got to know a number of interesting young women. In Lindvall’s system - and in that of most of the Christian Patriarchy systems - boys and girls are expected to be segregated. Once the decision is made that they will become betrothed, then they are allowed to develop a relationship. God will speak, and God has revealed in His word that He speaks through authorities in all of our lives...decision of whom to marry is based entirely on God's will confirmed by our authorities, with a confidence that God would bring romance to us as a blessing of our obedience... Also note that God isn’t expected to tell the couple.
A mutual friend gave her dad my number when he mentioned he was looking for a law student to do some freelance work on a few cases, so my brother and I (also in law school) drove down for a meeting with him.
Amanda was filling in for her dad’s usual secretary that day.
Don't get me wrong, I agree that there existed cultural differences between courtship and betrothal.
But to me and for my purposes here in the US, they were merely terms that expressed an anti-dating sentiment rather than a commitment to some specific methodology employed to garnish a spouse.